🌸 Kalaho Ecstatic Dance Guidelines of Consent

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1. Take Care of Yourself
Tune into your body and honour what feels right.
You are responsible for your own wellbeing—and for being aware of how your movement impacts those around you in our shared space.

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2. Always Seek a Clear YES
Approach slowly and respectfully, without contact, until you receive a clear, embodied “yes.”
If it’s not a clear yes, it’s a no. If someone communicates a boundary, listen and honour it.

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3. Suggest—Don’t Direct
Consent is a conversation, not a command.
Offer invitations through your movement—never assume or impose your will on another’s experience.

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4. Leave When You’re Ready
You’re free to end a dance or step away from an interaction at any time—no explanation needed.
Whether it’s after three seconds or three songs, your timing is perfect. Every exit is graceful.

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5. Keep It Platonic
It’s natural for energy to rise, but this space is for non-sexual, respectful, and platonic connection.
Transmute any erotic energy into movement and creative expression.

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6. Don’t Take “No” Personally
A boundary isn’t a rejection—it’s an act of self-care.
You never know what someone is holding. Trust that their “no” is a gift of clarity. Take a breath, release it, and return to your own dance or seek connection elsewhere.

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7. Communicate with Care
On the dance floor, use non-verbal signals: prayer hands or an open palm mean “no.”
Off the dance floor, if you feel safe, speak directly to the person—or reach out to a facilitator. Voicing your boundaries or concerns supports the safety and integrity of the whole space.

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